You know that feeling when you’ve got so much you want to do… and somehow you end up doing none of it?
The washing is half-done. Your notebook is open but blank. You’ve made a cup of tea you didn’t even want, just so you could avoid starting the thing you actually care about.
If procrastination had a personality, it wouldn’t be some evil villain. It would be that overly-helpful friend who says,
“Babe… you look tired. Why don’t we just start tomorrow?”
And tomorrow never quite arrives.
So let’s talk about it – honestly, gently, without the guilt spiral.
Because I don’t think procrastination is laziness. I think it’s fear wearing a comfy jumper.
Procrastination Isn’t the Problem – It’s the Signal
Here’s what I’ve started to realise.
We don’t procrastinate on things that don’t matter to us.
We procrastinate on the things that really matter.
The things that say something about who we are:
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The business idea that could change everything.
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The fitness journey that feels deeply personal.
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The boundaries you know you need to set but haven’t yet.
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The version of you that’s been quietly knocking from the inside.
And suddenly the stakes feel high. So your nervous system does what it’s designed to do - it keeps you safe by keeping you still.
Not because you can’t do it.
But because you care.
The “I’ll Start When I Feel Ready” Trap
Can we just collectively agree that ready is a myth?
Ready is a place we think we’ll arrive at once we’re more confident, less tired, more organised, more healed, more everything.
But here’s the truth I wish someone had said to me years ago:
You don’t get ready and then take action.
You take action… and then you become ready.
Confidence is not the entry fee.
It’s the reward for showing up messy and unsure.
Shrink the Mountain Until It Feels Laughable
One of the biggest reasons we freeze is because the task feels like a mountain.
So we tell ourselves we’ll “do it properly” later.
Instead, try this:
Don’t ask,
“What do I need to finish today?”
Ask,
“What is the smallest possible version of this I can start right now?”
Not:
Write the whole blog.
But:
Open the document and write the title.
Not:
Smash the workout.
But:
Put your trainers on.
Not:
Fix your whole life.
But:
Drink a glass of water.
Progress doesn’t start with motivation.
It starts with permission to be imperfect.
Let’s Talk About the Guilt
The guilt is often worse than the procrastination.
“I should have started already.”
“Why am I like this?”
“Other people don’t struggle like I do.”
Except… they absolutely do.
We just don’t post about the hours spent stuck, doubting ourselves, refreshing the fridge, rearranging cushions we don’t even like.
Guilt doesn’t get you moving.
Gentleness does.
What If You’re Not Broken?
What if you’re not unmotivated?
What if you’re overwhelmed, tired, holding a lot, trying to evolve into a new version of yourself with an old nervous system that’s still catching up?
Maybe procrastination isn’t a flaw.
Maybe it’s your cue to slow down, soften the edges, and start smaller than your pride wants to.
A Tiny Promise
Not a big vow. Not a Monday-morning reinvention.
Just this:
Today, do one thing that moves you 1% closer to the life you keep daydreaming about.
Not because you feel like it.
But because Future You is quietly rooting for you from the other side of the discomfort.
And if all you manage today is reading this and thinking,
“Okay… maybe I’ll try again tomorrow,”
That still counts.
We’re not here to be perfect.
We’re here to keep evolving. 💜
